DADvocate

Last Sunday, DrHelen posted about a Dr Phil show in which a man didn't want to pay child support for a child he fathered by a woman who told him she couldn't conceive. The post created quite a debate concerning men's rights versus women's rights, choices regarding parenthood and the like. Currently, all the choice past the decision to have sexual intercourse lie in the hands of the female.

I've advocated that men have similar rights as women. Instead of forcing abortion, allow men to disavow parenthood within a limited time frame beginning when first aware of the pregnancy or the child's existence. Enable men to collect repayment and other damages when fraudulently led to believe a child is theirs. Pass legislation protecting sperm donors from paying child support. Protect male victims of under age rape by an adult female from ever having to pay child support for a child conceived under such circumstances.

Presently, men a being forced to support children that aren't theirs. Sometimes they even pay child support for a child that doesn't and never did exist. Some women think sperm donors should pay child support. One woman tried to have a child using frozen embryo created by her and her now divorced husband who would have to pay child support.

Men are generally told "if they don't like it, just keep it in their pants." Hmm, wonder how this approach would work with women.

In response to DrHelen's post, Dr. Melissa Clouthier wrote a post on her blog. Dr. Melissa makes some excellent points.

IT'S ABOUT THE CHILDREN, PEOPLE! Our society is filled with such selfish, self-absorbed, indulgent adults that all they can think about is their own gratification and getting away with it with no obligation.

Just a few weeks ago, I wrote a post that touched on the same subject. In an update Dr. Melissa also writes:

Well, I'm for restricting everyone's reproductive rights--including women's. I believe abortion-rights have denigrated a woman's place in society. I believe that women have been the second biggest losers due to abortion. Ultimately, children have lost the most--their lives.

I agree. One of the ironies of feminism, which greatly protests women being treated as sex objects, is that women are now more of a sex object than before the birth of feminism. With the availability of birth control, abortion, etc., men using women and women using men for pleasure without commitment occurs commonly. Yet feminists and politicians continue to preach about abortion being a woman's inherit "right."

Dr. Melissa arrives at a less than flattering conclusion concerning men.

Men are the new victims. Welcome, men, to the horde of pathetic losers claiming their life is ruined by someone else. Wallow along with the rest of us, will you? Isn't that nice? Dr. Helen thinks men should unite and fight for their rights. It's already happening. And it is crazy. In this men's movement, no thought is given to the children. Oh, yeah! Them....

Here I disagree. A "pathetic loser" is someone who quits fighting and gives up. A pathetic loser just lies there and takes it. Maybe Dr. Melissa belongs to that seemingly ever increasing body of women who think that a man's only purpose in life is to serve them. And if you don't serve them well enough, they get your house, your furniture, your kids and much of your money.

Fighting for equality, freedom and justice traditionally ranks upon the most noble of pursuits. Did I miss something somewhere?